You are stronger than you think. You are here searching for help, and that takes guts. I'm proud of you.
Let me say that again. Life is challenging. But here's the second part: It's a beautiful ride. There are days when we ignore the beauty around us and succumb to the pain. It happens to everyone.
The key is to not stay in that place. Don't wallow in pain, hurt, or helplessness. Instead, focus your thoughts on what is good and jovial. Easier said than done, right? That's what I'd be thinking if someone told me this. So what should you do?
Controlling Your Thoughts
Recognize the truth.
"No one loves me."
You know that's not true. I bet you could make a list of those who love you. But here's the big question. Do you love you? Make a list of ten things you love about yourself. Make a list of things you are good at, and a list of things you are great at. I bet you'll discover some remarkable things about yourself.
Take me for example. One of the things I'm good at and great at, is being friendly. Stop the press. Did she just say "being friendly," like that's a real thing to add to the list?
Yes, I did. It sounds simple, but it's true.
"No one would care if I die."
That's not true either. I would care. There are plenty of people who would care, and you wouldn't be around to find out how much. You must understand that there is a person you are going to evolve into that's going to be so amazing. Do you know why? Because you are going to learn and grow from your experiences. Those experiences are going to equip you for the world and give you what you need to help someone else. You'll be able to say, 'I've been there. This is what I did," or "Here is something that may help."
Embrace Who You Are
Allow yourself to be you.
Be willing to show your true authentic self, no matter what the outcome. You deserve to be you. The clumsy, pimple-faced, funny, geeky, nerdy, rich or poor, weird, peanut butter and bacon-eating, you. All the things that make you uniquely you. That's the person I'd like to meet. The you that doesn't fit in with everyone else because your so friggin awesome, having your own thoughts and way of doing things.
How? Volunteering, writing, crafting, taking photos, dancing. That's right, I said dancing. Let's learn a Tik Tok routine together. I'm not joking. I'll learn it with you (What a great idea! I may set up a page just for those who follow this blog so we can learn together!). Anything that get's you out of your head and takes the focus off you. What are you interested in? Make a list. Yes, I'm all about lists. I'm a list-creating maniac.
Food (I like to try new recipes)
These are just a few of my interests. From there I can google and see if there are any volunteer opportunities in my area, groups I can join at my rec center, make my own videos, journal my thoughts and ideas, start exercising, and join the I Am Aria group on Facebook and make new friends.
Now sit up straight, take a deep breath. Get to work!