The One Thing I Would Tell The Thirteen Year Old Me
Everything is not what it seems. It's all going to be okay.
Holy cannoli, this is a hard question. I think I would tell myself two things. Okay, I'm cheating. But let me have the two.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt.
Teddy Roosevelt said, "Comparison is the thief of joy." I tell ya, those Roosevelt's knew what they were talking about. I'm pretty sure I started comparing myself to everyone else in sixth grade. Before that, I didn't notice that I didn't look or dress like everyone else. By seventh grade, I couldn't stop. All it does is make you feel bad. And we didn't even have social media back then. Now you have Instagram, Facebook, Snap Chat, etc., where you can see into others' lives. Most of that is fake and we know it, yet we still make comparisons.
If you haven't watched the Greatest Showman, go and watch it just so you can listen to the This Is Me song. The lyrics bring me to tears every time. You can also Google it and watch it on YouTube ( Here ya go) I make no apologies, this is me! Those lyrics, oh my gosh.
2. It gets better.
This too, shall pass.
I stopped dreaming and became stuck right there in my misery. I lost hope and thought of nothing but the teasing and bullying that took place in school. When you're going through it, you can't think of a world outside of what you're dealing with. But friend. let me tell you, this too shall pass.
Joining a band in high school was perhaps one of the best things I did, though I didn't realize it at the time. I became inspired to write music and learn different instruments. I wish I had joined an organization with like-minded girls. Whether it was available at my church, school, or a local community center--a that would inspire me to look outside of myself and outside of my little world that felt like the whole world.
It is my wish that this site gives you hope and ideas for you to be the best version of you--right now, while you're young. So you look back with no regrets.